A difficult life
There are always two sides to a coin (soon children and young people will wonder what a coin is…). My page is pretty easy to understand - I think. I'm way too kind. And very empathetic. Often puts the needs of others before my own. Or have done at least. I learn more and more every day to set boundaries for what is good or less good for myself, what to "swallow" and forgive and when to say STOP, IT'S ENOUGH! If you get a sudden call late on a Friday night from someone you are friends with on Facebook, but have never talked to, do you answer? At that point, it may be something important. I answered. If at the other end you hear a drunken man who more or less asks for help because he feels really bad and just wants to talk a little, do you hang up? I did not. Part of the reason is that I have had conversations before with someone who felt so bad that the person considered taking his life. A conversation can do so much. That's why I just can 't let it go. It was a little longer contact than I intended from the beginning. I gave it a few chances, mostly for the sake of the other when he did not want to let me go. He needed me, I did not need him. I was more than clear from the beginning. Still, there were some abuse that I experienced as a gross lack of respect. I was too kind and allowed myself to be persuaded to continue the contact. He needed a friend. Which later turned out to be a love affair on his part. But when it comes to love, the brain does not work properly. Therefore, the lot fell on me to interrupt our contact. For a little over a week, I was "hunted" in every possible way to give him another chance. I had already given him several. Now it's stop! I know several who would report to the police, but I think it would do more harm than good. The person is not dangerous, but feels bad. And I can not take that responsibility. I know it was stupid of me not to say stop from the beginning, but I never thought it would be this big. Never before have I ended a contact in this way, especially when the other party cannot accept the situation. This is not something that is easy. I am proud that I dared to resist and set my limit, even though I would have stood my ground from the beginning. Life can be difficult sometimes. How had you done?