Be your own salesperson

I've always said I'm not a salesperson. I'm completely awful at negotiating prices. Especially when I have to sell or buy myself. It's easier when I have to help others. Then I do not get the same feeling that others should think that I am stingy or greedy, or the bad conscience to earn at someone else's expense. Why is it like that? Most likely because it gets too close, I feel vulnerable and may be afraid of being questioned without having good arguments to make. My self-confidence falters. Probably also because I have a very great empathic ability and live in the other person's situation. I think many people share this phenomenon. I once sat in a meeting with my then boss and said a little apologetically that "I am bad at negotiating my own salary". Maybe not the best forum really, but I liked my boss, he was good. Except that he was very restrained with salaries and other things that cost. His answer there and then was: "I do not think so at all!". He saw something in me that I myself was not aware of. And in a way I can understand him; if I had put my uncertainty about money aside, I would have fixed a salary negotiation or similar without any problems. It's my own attitude I have to change. I am good at networking and marketing. If I am involved in something, it is very clear. Then I am confident, my eyes light up and my whole aura of energy grows big and spreads. Then I'm a real joy spreader who can make anyone fall. And this is me almost always. In the same way, I can negatively affect people around me. If I'm out of my mind and a little down, tired or simply bored, everyone feels it. The posture gets a little shrunken, I do not see people in the eyes, just do not want to be seen. I know how I affect people around me and therefore I want to "hide" a little when I do not feel so good. It's a natural behavior for me, but it's such a contrast to my usual happy self that my surroundings tend to be anxious. So it sometimes has the opposite effect than what is the purpose. As it is, this does not happen very often, but I am a person I am with and can not be positive and full of energy constantly. I am a person who has a hard time being something I am not. The ability to lie or manipulate is not something I possess. Sure, I've been on a couple of "slaps" over the years, but I almost always get appreciated for being just honest and genuine. Some may perceive me as kind and perhaps naive and then they may well think so. The main thing is that I myself feel good and those around me. If I have a bad day or period and I am going to an important meeting or job interview, then it is a bad idea to send out negative energy. I MUST be seen and show myself committed. For which employer wants an employee who apparently does not want to be there? Someone who does not want to be social with the rest of the staff? Or the customers? On the contrary, it is the case that anyone would love to meet a person every day at work who radiates confidence and joy, inspiration and forward thinking. In that situation, I AM a salesman! I sell myself, my experiences and above all my personality and my smile. And to get all the way to that meeting, I also have to sell myself in my way of being towards everyone I meet, in my everyday life and, above all, in my job application. It requires focus and dedication, interest so great that I temporarily forget my bad day. To get my dream job (or whatever it is about) I will put my soul into everything I do to reach the goal. I have learned that it can be heard in a phone call if you smile (feel free to try). In the same way, you can read between the lines of a personal letter in a job application, in a chat or a post on Facebook if the person is feeling well, is positive, WANTS SOMETHING. Formalia is its thing, but be personal, open up your heart. You compete with many out there. Stretch your back, bring out the commitment that only you can get, give yourself to him. What your own salesman! Then employers will fight for you. follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cecand75/ Or me and my band Shoodix on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shoodix

Be your own salesperson